self care

DEATH is always difficult, be it friend, family or pet. Try to be extra kind to yourself during this time, and remember that there is no right or wrong way to grieve, and there is no magic length of time that it will take to get over it. In fact, you are not really getting over anything, rather what you are doing during this time is a lot of remembering and accepting of the situation, and learning to live without the person, regardless of how much they were in your life. You never ‘get over’ that, you just learn to live a different way, and that can take some time.

Self care, and being kind to yourself means: take a break, having a nap, going to a movie, going for a walk or run, taking a vacation or anything that feels good for you. Being close to a death can be one of the most difficult life transitions, at the top of the stress pile, so anything you can do to help relive your stress will be helpful. I like to think of death as another part of life, a changing of energy – but of course that doesn’t make it any less painful at the start.

Remember too that you are not being judged on this;  the way you are grieving, or the type of funeral, wake or celebration of life you are planning, just do the best you can, and be easy with yourself during this time. There is no right or wrong, it is just all part of life, have I said that already? It just takes time.

There are loads of good books to help you through this time, especially for children and some for the adults in their lives too. And remember – just breathe.

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“I’m not afraid of death because I don’t believe in it.
It’s just getting out of one car, and into another.”
JOHN LENNON